Friend or Acquaintance

It’s been said that you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. Who are those 5 people in your circle? What do they add to your life? Is their character admirable? Are they a valuable friendship asset or are they simply an acquaintance? You know, someone who you may say hey to, if you see them on the street. But probably wouldn’t ever invite them to your house or go spend any time at theirs. The question then has to be asked, “What’s the purpose of keeping them in your life?”

Merriam-Webster defines friend as “one attached to another by affection or esteem.” In other words, you share some sort of mutual bond, common interest or love for one another. Now, if we define acquaintance, it reads like this: “the state of being acquainted.” Meaning, you probably know who they are, maybe what they do for a living or a little something about them. But, don’t have that deep bond or similar passion, like you do with a friend. The question then, still remains “What’s the purpose of keeping them in your life?”

Perhaps we keep acquaintances in our lives so we don’t feel lonely. If we have a few hundred friends on social media, it gives us a sense of value. There also might be an instance where someone we know, may be able to offer a helpful tip, in our time of need. A plumber, builder, minister or the ever popular car mechanic, when our vehicle doesn’t want to get up and go like it should. Still the question remains “What’s the purpose of keeping them in our life?” If they’re there for nothing more, than to be used in our time of need, is that fair to them? Is it healthy for us, to use others and perhaps in turn, be used by them, when they are in need? Are we really loving well or being respectful of each other, at that point?

Friendship is a very valuable asset and shouldn’t be taken for granted. Neither should acquaintanceship. If there is someone in your life that you love enough to call friend, make sure they know that. Take the time to let them know what they mean to you. As for the answer to the question “What’s the purpose of having them in your life?” Only you can answer that. Maybe some negative people need to go or some positive people need to be added. Regardless, I would make sure that the 5 people closest to you, whether they are friends or acquaintances, are people you admire and respect. Folks that help keep your integrity intact, inspire you and together, you character build one another. Friends or acquaintances? Where you draw that line is completely up to you and certainly a valuable thought to ponder.

“Don’t join an easy crowd; you won’t grow. Go where the expectations and the demands to perform are high.” – Jim Rohn